5 points to get along with the “dao”

It is said that marriage is easy and it is difficult to get along. Everyone wants their marriage to be happy and smooth, but getting along is not an easy task. To this end, I summed up 5 points for everyone, the secret of getting along with each other is this, and study hard. Xiao Bian recommended: Sexual life to the husband after marriage, the couple can not let go of the sex way 1, do not suspicion in the feelings, even if you are already familiar with each other, even if you feel the lover’s thoughts and feelings are well known, it will still When there is a mistake. In the marital crisis, this kind of situation often occurs: the suspicion of catching the wind makes both people angry, difficult to communicate, and finally the relationship breaks down. Take a piece of paper and follow the intuition directly to complete the sentence “I guess the lover will ____ think of me (to me).” Then, verify the correctness of the guess with your lover. As a result, you will find that many of the conjectures are wrong. When you have a question, the best way is to ask him directly. 2. Don’t think that the lover should do what you should do for no one. For the lover to do for himself, we should express gratitude, not take it for granted. At the same time, we must eliminate three negative attitudes: a sense of rights, unrealistic expectations and pretending to forget. Try to write down the big things that your lover has done for you. Ask yourself if you have expressed gratitude for these things and how they are expressed. Adhere to the expression of thanks for 1 week and you will find the changes. 3, do not blame each other in life, there will always be many problems. And we always blame each other very easily. And when “all is your fault!” “You let me do it, because you, things are messed up!” When these words are spoken, they have already hurt the other’s heart. And “I should bear any responsibility” and so on, it is rarely exported. The actual expression of blaming is accusation and threat, and the other party will naturally reciprocate and lead to escalation of contradictions. When you want to blame, please write down your words of blaming your lover, then ask yourself, check your responsibilities, and finally discuss the solution. 4, do not arbitrarily explain the understanding of the lover should be comfort, sincerity, from the heart. Rather than like “I am now understanding that you are so picky, you are like your father.” This kind of analysis that seems to understand the behavioral motives of a lover can only lead to anger. First understand the reasons for your anger, learn to listen to your lover’s point of view in an open and caring way, and let your lover understand that you are listening carefully in a non-verbal way, such as gaze, and finally make constructive suggestions. 5. Don’t be afraid to say “no” In sex, be brave and say no, not just satisfy each other. Perfect sex is to please each other, not just one. So, in sex, if you don’t want to, be brave and say no. Sincere expression will make your marriage more tight and stronger. To be honest, I can win the trust of my lover and deepen my relationship. It’s a good idea to list all the things that are afraid to tell your lover by difficulty. After that, start with the simplest one and try to tell the lover the truth. Guess what you like: Couples’ emotional appreciation, five thrusts, seven strokes, good husband, sex, demonstration, emotional story, couples, emotional, fun, sexual intercourse, more content, please pay attention to Feihua Health and Sexual Channel: http://sex.fh21.com.cn Copyright: Ben The copyright of the article belongs to Feihua Health Net. Any natural or legal person may not reprint or copy all or part of it in any form without permission. If you want to reprint, you must indicate it from Feihua Health Net!